Co worker HELL!

Ok, hope you liked my joke~ just something to try & make the day a little brighter . My day started off ok but has had a turn fairly quickly (oh God, it's only 10:30 am & this is how my post is starting off.. can't be good...) .

I found out this morning on my way into work that my sister in law (whom some may remember my old blog posting SIL from HELL) who went to the hospital 2 nights ago *by ambulance* left because she didn't feel like sitting there (duh!) went back to the hospital and was admitted because she has appendicitis & is going for surgery this morning. I feel badly for her but I know she'll be fine; those surgeries are very common. So Kevin is at the hospital with his parents right now waiting to make sure things are ok.

Once at work, which is never such a great experience, I start telling the girls what happened to Mayra & that Kevin was at the hospital. One of my coworkers, Tammy, comes out & asks, "Oh, is Kevin not working today?" Hmmmm........ wait-

Before anyone goes & tries to give her the benefit of the doubt about maybe not knowing about Kevin's job situation let me give a little background information on Tammy.. She & I used to be friends. I met her at my last employer almost 5 years ago now. She was nice back than, a little wacky, but nice. When I left the previous company & came where I am now, the company was in bad shape (not because I left but b/c it was a bad company) & I helped Tammy get a job here. I thought I did a good thing. The pay was good, it was a nice place to work, and no further than the othe company. So she started March 2003 (I started August 2002) and at first it was all good. She started to have problems with her mother that year and she ended up with lung cancer & died just before that Christmas. At the same time she had problems with her nasty husband who hit her, treated her like a child, and basically controlled everything she did. She's one of those people who bad mouth to EVERYONE. She can't keep her mouth shut! She just tells everyone everything about anything & asks for advice but only wants to hear that she's right. So she told everyone that she & her husband were separating & he moved out. The entire time she talked badly about him & his family to every coworker in this company, some of which actually KNOW her in-laws. She also has a 5 year old son who is beyond hyper active (we went out to dinner once & never again! she let him run rampant around the restaurant) and has trouble in school. She has come into the office saying how much she shouldn't be a mother & that she can't stand him & he drives her crazy. Ok, so that's background on her character... now here's our relationship background..

Through all the crap & looking stupid at work I remained friends with her. We went to lunch together, she was there through the planning of my wedding. She even gave me my hair & makeup as a gift for the shower! I had her come over to my house for the hair and makeup trial. It was just my bridesmaids, mother, and me pretty much. We had some drinks and muchies and Tammy drank soo much! She was loud and obnoxious. It was really embarrassing. I was leary but I invited her as well as a few other coworkers to my shower which I thought would be ok. That was at my MIL's house last May. It was outside & my mom had made a yummy punch but also brought a bottle of vodka for everyone to spike their own drinks if they wanted. Well by the time I got there (it was supposed to be a surprise but I knew) Tammy had drank nearly the entire bottle of vodka and was WAY out of control. She started calling my little sister by the wrong name (she is Emily Nicole & Tammy called her Emily Elizabeth b/c it reminded her of the girl from Clifford the Big Red Dog). She kept remarking about my mom's lack of ass (no lie) and even looked down my dress since I wore a sun dress that cut a little lower than normal! My MOH & a BM, my cousin Leia & my friend Michelle, drove over together & were late because they got lost so she actually made nasty and rude remarks to them! It was so embarrassing. My coworkers were humiliated too because they also felt responsible even though they weren't. As if that wasn't enough, to top it all off... she saw the man that lives across the street from my MIL & FIL and said she was interested in him so my (stupid) MIL & SIL took her over there where she went in & disappeared for over an hour!! She stole the show at my shower & caused a huge scene. I was so angry. When she came back I just told her to leave because she had too much to drink and I would talk to her on Monday at work. I had about had it with her. Since than I have barely spoken to her. She was ridiculous. We've all told her (me & my coworkers) that she has alcohol issues and she needs to stop but she won't and so I've decided to not have that be part of my life. Most recently, when I found out I was pg back in November I didn't tell people right away because I wanted to make sure things were ok. I did tell one friend at work whom I know did NOT tell Tammy. Somehow Tammy either guessed or figured it out & started making comments all over the place that she dramed I was pg & that I am pg. I was so annoyed. I took her aside one day & told her to shut up because it's not her business if I am or I am not, but she had already told all of my coworkers so I kinda had to 'fess up~ at like 5 or 6 weeks- way earlier than I wanted to.

Needless to say when Kevin lost his job I did NOT share anything with Tammy. I do not talk to her anymore unless it's about trivial things or work related because frankly I can't stand her. I'm sure she heard through the grapevine about Kevin (I did share with others) and that was fine but she shouldn't have ever brought it up. Yet constantly when I mention his name or that I spoke to him in the middle of the day she'll ask, "Oh, is he not working today?" Like she doesn't know. Come on~ give me some credit! I know she knows but why does she have to keep bringing it up or poking me with it? Today's question was it. I think my hormones have cut my patients down to almost non-exsistant & I was about to scream at her for even asking that. And of course she asked in front of everyone. So I did the only thing I could do- I sent her an instant message & this is exactly what I sent: "look tammy, i know u know about kevin & his job situation. im not stupid. i dont appreciate that you keep questioning me about his job situation & his working in front of everyone. it's a bad situation & i'm not happy about it. i don't talk to you about things like that anymore for a reason.. i'd appreciate it if you would stop bringing it up. it depresses me that i'm due in 4 mos, have a new house, & kevin isn't working so plz stop talking about it." Her response? "Fine". I hope she listens because I really can't stand to deal with her anymore. She is pushing on that last nerve that is keeping me from killing her (or just looking for a new job & quitting this one). I just don't understand why people want to try & hurt someone else. It's not something happy. It's not something I talk about. Why even bring it up?

Ok, enough of that. It's too much to worry about right now. I've got other things to think about.. like it's FRIDAY! I have been waiting for the weekend. It has been a nice week though since I haven't had school, but I still just my weekends. This weekend ought to be pretty good too since my Mom, sister, & I are going to go look for furniture at IKEA! I can't wait. Kevin is going to his parent's house to do some stuff & I'm gonna get a (much needed) girls day out. Plus I LOVE Ikea! They have such great stuff & good prices. My mom's never been so it'll be an experience. I just had to promise Kevin that I wouldn't buy anything with out showing him first. I'm planning on bringing my camera & taking pics of stuff I like. It should be fun.

Tomorrow I also plan on finishing my bedroom. I'm going to do the sponge painting that needs to get done & I'd like Kevin to put new molding back up. It's finally starting to feel like our room in our home! It's really exciting. Things are coming along. I'll make sure to post pictures when I'm done.

Alright, I've spent the last hour typing this post. I feel a little better after venting. I better go. Lunch in 1/2 hour & I think I'm gonna go grab a sandwich at the deli. Sorry it was such a LOOONG post.

~Kristina